We are all busy. There’s always something to distract us (to take our attention away) from the things we know we should do. In the backs of our minds, we know we are not doing the thing we should do. But we never get around to (do) it.
For many years I worked at a hospital. My patients were those who had gone home to die. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. They shared (told me) a lot of things with me. When I asked them about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common things appeared again and again. Here are the most common five:
Firstly, most thought they were not brave to live a life true to themselves (being themselves in all situations and not caring what other people think). This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled (not achieved). Most people had not achieved even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was because of choices they had made, or not made.
Secondly, they were hard working men. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship (to spend time with someone and enjoy being with them). Women also spoke of this regret. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives working, not spending with their families.
Thirdly, many people suppressed (stopped themselves from showing) their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they lived for a mediocre (not very good) life and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many became ill because of the negative feelings they had for a long time.
Fourthly, they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks. Many had become so involved with their own lives that they had forgotten their friendships over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.
Finally, happiness was a very common regret. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. Fear of change made them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content (happy).
The question is, are you going to change anything this afternoon or tomorrow? Or are you going to go back to your busy life? (3 paragraphs)0 This entry was posted in Reading stage 1 by Parviz with ۵ comments